What I posted on Instagram about December 2017 vs 2016; follow me @thetimebetweenis or on Twitter @timebetweenis
I have always loved December. It is my birth month, after all, and the holidays and even getting only one gift as a kid instead of two since birthday was so close to Christmas was not enough to ruin it. I also met my husband in December and sometimes that is something I celebrate and sometimes.... welll.....just kidding - at the end of the day, as I wrote here on this blog, he is a good man and I am lucky to have met him in-sickness-and-in-health.html.
Now, of course, after my breast cancer plot twist, I have even more reason to be in love with December. My birthday is December 13th and on that day last year, my big 4-0 birthday, I was getting a pet scan, which I found out the next day was all clear (best birthday gift ever) and then three days later, I had my surgery.
After the operation, when I was snoozing off the anesthesia, my surgeon called my husband and told him, "All of the cancer is gone; I removed all of it." I guess now December 16th is the day of my re-birth. I will NEVER thank cancer but without it, I would not have become this improved version of me that I am today.
In the past, I worried about everything. I was not truly happy in my life no matter what. I would focus on the negatives and be so stressed and tired and not give a shit about taking care of me. I was the LAST person on the list for anything in my mind. I judged other people for taking care of themselves and for that, my silent judging, I am sorry. I held myself up to a standard that did not exist as I wrote about in my Open Letter to me an-open-letter-to-me.html.
I wrote about my PTSD and all of the medical tests I subjected myself to recently all-about-the-ptsd-post-breast-cancer.html and wanted to update that on December 1, I got my final report back for the endoscopy and everything that was biopsied was benign! I spent time worrying over those 3 weeks of waiting but nothing near to what I would have done before I walked the walk of a breast cancer patient. I did not let it take my joy, I did not let it take my sleep and I did not let it take my peace.
This month, I go and see my surgeon on the anniversary date of when my husband and I met. We went 16 years ago now on a Thursday night in December that feels like a lifetime ago. He was still on the job and working 12-24 hour shifts down at "ground zero" as we met the December after 9/11. We made it work, somehow, and next year is our 13th year of marriage. So on 12/21 when we are at Sloan for my mammogram, ultrasound of the remaining breast and my follow up with the surgeon on the mastectomy site I want to also celebrate us somehow...
Instead of worrying about these upcoming tests and visits, I am instead going to focus on the joy- the joy of being "cancer free" at least as far as I know :) and I want to keep it that way. Last year at this time, I was not cancer free and it really put everything in perspective.
I am still here, I am standing and this is what I do in the time between. I also decided as an early birthday gift to myself of upgrading my Weebly website to streamline the URL to just www.thetimebetweenis.org and also to add in the Search bar (really for me so I can find stuff easily...
Happy December to all of you - I wish you peace and happiness always and great health!
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